When things get messed up on a webpage we can click the REFRESH button. When an electronic device doesn’t work right we can do a RESET by shutting it down then restarting it, or taking out the batteries and then restarting.
But what about when our minds feel overloaded or our emotions are all tangled up or we’re just plain stressed out? Wouldn’t it be nice to do a reset or refresh? The following is a suggestion of how to do just that. Continue reading
Yesterday I spoke with a friend who was trying to decide when to retire. He had a bunch of conflicting feelings and was deadlocked within himself about what to do.
We discussed it for a while. When the conversation switched to what I was doing, I told him about the questions I had been working with (see March 28 post – “The Power of Inquiry”). The questions are for dealing with things that are bothering us – things we find upsetting, that bug us, etc.
2 Sets of Questions to help us see the truth more clearly
and enter the flow of well being.
The “That’s Better!” Process
Dealing with something upsetting that keeps coming up in our minds.
1) “If ____ sticks in my mind there is something valuable in it for me.”
If it were NOT something worthwhile, it would drift by and not be considered.
A reminder of this is good at the beginning. It sets the stage for the rest of the process.
2) “_____ is now in my life, so it is part of my life story.”
Whether I like it or not, this image/event/idea has now been included in the story of my life. I cannot pretend it away or erase it. It is now part of the script in my life’s drama. If I don’t accept this fact I will not be able to be in the truth.
3) Ask, “What does this image/event/idea have to offer me?”
List multiple possibilities of what this could offer – both helpful and unhelpful, no limits. Just let ideas come to mind without evaluating them.
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This blog has been set up as a place to share insights, ideas, tools and thoughts I find useful in becoming more consciously aware of the ever-present flow of well being. “The Flow of Well Being” Facebook page has links to videos, webs and writings on this topic. This blog will be for longer posts.
Matthieu Ricard, a Tibetan monk, described it well in a Ted.com lecture. He spoke about how our emotions are like the waves, they rise and fall. When something good happens we are happy, but after a while that feeling fades.
If we go beneath the waves of the surface to the deep constancy which is ever-present below, we can experience the well being which is always here.
As we move into awareness of that underlying flow of well being, we exist more and more in a state which is steady and enduring. We can then ride the waves of emotion with more pleasure and make better choices along the way, too!